The Joyful Stepmom
Posted on September 24th, 2018

​We often say, "You just have to let it go!" or "You need to give that to God." But how?!? How do you do that? How do hand something over to Jesus?

If you are like me, you are up in the night worrying about your stepchild. Maybe during the day, driving to the grocery store or running the kids, your mind just starts to fuss about the mom and that last email.

Stop. Physically stop what you are doing. Sit up in bed, pull the car over. And talk to your Father. Tell Him, "Lord, take this from me. Take this fuss from my mind, take this worry from my heart."

No matter how often you have to stop...and give it up....over and over, give your burden to Jesus. Trust Him with it. I promise, very soon- He will be carrying the whole thing.

Posted on September 17th, 2018

I'm a reader. When there is something I do not know, I reach for books so I can learn to fix it, do it, make it, etc. My stepmom journey is no different. When I became stepmom to a five year old little boy, I reached for books. 

Gayla Grace is one of the early authors I found and followed online. She is part of a tribe of women, who now form the Sisterhood of Stepmoms, that were influential in my early stepmom days. And I'm so pleased to share her new devotional with you!

Finding a devotional for stepparents is like finding a gold nugget. I get very excited about Christian resources for us! And this devotional is truly something to be overjoyed about. Step Parenting with Grace by Gayla Grace is a daily devotional that covers a multitude of topics in the stepparent journey. 

The devotions are heartwarming, but they also made me think! Just a few moments reading each day and you will have really gleaned knowledge and encouragement for your walk with the Lord and your family. 

I want to share one such devotion that stuck with me. It is titled The Privilege of a Stepparent on page 21 of her book. The stepmom role is called many different things, anywhere from blessing to duty.  But have you heard it called a privilege? 

This devotion caught my heart and I wanted to share it:

"I'll never forget when a counselor asked me to consider it a privilege to be a stepmom. Not a right to discipline or an expectation to be loved.
A privilege.
A privilege to impact two children in a way no one else could." 

Step Parenting with Grace by Gayla Grace

I don't spend a lot of time trying to figure out where I fit in my stepson's life. I am one of his parents. How much he needs me or how involved I am has changed at different times. I do not spend a lot of time analyzing that. But the last line of this quote, paraphrased for my own situation: {consider being a stepmom} "A privilege to impact a child in a way no one else could" really tugs at my heart. 

Just mull that over in your heart. This is not a duty you married into. This is an honor! You are uniquely created by God and GET to impact your stepchild as only He created you to do. 

I'm an introvert and my stepchild is a boy, so between the two of us- we don't share our feelings a lot...or ever! Ha! But I hope he knows this to be true. That is has always been an honor and privilege to share in his life. 

Posted on September 13th, 2018

Our Fall Study is focusing on exercising our spiritual muscle and memorizing a Bible verse each week. The weekly verse is posted daily in our Facebook Group for familiarity. We can also save it to our phones. 

How do you memorize scripture? 

This week, our verse is Joshua 1:9
Honestly, there are so many moments of fear in a stepmom journey.  At least, there have been in mine. I'm an anxious person to begin with. Jumping in with both feet to a conflict ridden co-parenting situation brought a fair share of anxiety to my heart. 

This verse is such a bold reminder. When I am weak and lost in my own thoughts, drowning in the pit of what could be, I am reminder of the One who goes with me always. 

Posted on September 11th, 2018

Last week, we began our Fall Study: Hide God's Word in My Heart. We are focusing on Bible Memory. ​There have been several times in my stepmom journey that I have been so grateful I memorized verses as a child. School events, pick up or sitting in the court room, I run through the verses in my head.

We need this practice of exercising our spiritual muscle. Each week, we will have a memory verse.

We began our study with 1 John 3: 1
I love this verse. It is a wonderful reminder that we are called His children. And that we are different from the world. So often as stepmoms, the world expects us to act a certain way. Do you feel that? We are to act with jealousy, bitterness, and from a defensive position.

But we are not of this world. 

This verse should remind us to act differently. What does the Lord call us towards? Peace. Love. Grace. The world should call us crazy when it looks at our actions! They will say- How can we offer forgiveness and peace? Isn't that woman our enemy? That child isn't your responsibility!

Let our response speak volumes to the love of the Father and to whom we belong. 

Posted on September 1st, 2018

​​We are so excited The Joyful Stepmom has been added to the Bible Gateway Blogger Grid! We have joined the ranks of writers like Sally Clarkson, Bible Love Notes, and The M.O.M. Initiative. It's a thrill to join the Blogger Grid with other writers professing faith through the written word. 

Throughout the year, we will highlight a few features of Bible Gateway that can enhance our study and quiet time. 

I was so excited to see Max Lucado had a new book out in 2017. To see a major Christian author cover the topic of anxiety was a breath of fresh air. He gives the anxious heart hope. Stepmoms, how many of us feel overcome with anxiety at times? I know you are nodding your head with me. 

Bible Gateway's blog had a great interview with Max Lucado on his book and his thoughts on anxiety. Great sneak peek of the book!